Poly stuff???
I'm still not over the fact I've accidentally fallen into a polyamorous relationship. There wasn't really a discussion about it and it just kind of... happened? I basically asked my partner 'hey is it cool if I fool around with (gf)?' and it was, and we did like once a year for three years and then...?? I don't know. It's not like it's bad, just confusing to me lol
She visited and we spent a whole day together and had a dinner/drinks date, it was great. And then we planned on it again. Then she moved closer for financial reasons and now instead of it being a 5 hour drive, it's only like an hour and a half. So she's visited a lot more within the past two months.
Then I called her 'datefriend' because idk what the fuck else to call her. And then I just kind of started referring to her as my girlfriend and we briefly talked about 'hey what do we call each other?' and then we basically just casually settled into dating.
We've all known each other since college, same fraternity, etc. My fiancΓ©e & GF have a lot in common with music stuff. They also knew each other in college, albeit not like close BFFs. So it just kind of works out, I guess.
It's nice. It's kind of difficult to balance things, but I think I'm learning. And it's just as difficult trying to be open about my personal intimacy stuff with another person as it is with my fiancee sometimes.
But I'm learning and I think I'm doing okay.